Here is the description for the Relator Theme from the Gallup Business Journal:
“Relator describes your attitude toward your relationships. In simple terms, the Relator theme pulls you toward people you already know. You do not necessarily shy away from meeting new people — in fact, you may have other themes that cause you to enjoy the thrill of turning strangers into friends — but you do derive a great deal of pleasure and strength from being around your close friends. You are comfortable with intimacy. Once the initial connection has been made, you deliberately encourage a deepening of the relationship. You want to understand their feelings, their goals, their fears, and their dreams; and you want them to understand yours. You know that this kind of closeness implies a certain amount of risk — you might be taken advantage of — but you are willing to accept that risk. For you a relationship has value only if it is genuine. And the only way to know that is to entrust yourself to the other person. The more you share with each other, the more you risk together. The more you risk together, the more each of you proves your caring is genuine. These are your steps toward real friendship, and you take them willingly.”
In terms of Relationships, I would describe WOO as people who build breadth in relationships, and Relator as people who then towards depth in relationships.
One aspect of Relator is authenticity in relationships, and being very sensitive towards not “making use” of the relationship. To a high Relator, they may often want others know the relationship is real and does not just exist because of some external purpose or need to be met. The Relationship itself is the focus. At the same time, the reverse is true, and they are very sensitive towards people who do not seem to be genuine, or worse seems to be making use of the relationship for some personal reason or benefit. They are careful not to be seen as taking advantage of the relationship.
My Relator is #9, which is within my dominant talents. Sometimes, I suspect that high Relators would love to serve others who are important to them, it is part of building the relationship, and at the same time, they may not wish others to do the same for them if they feel it is done out of obligation. Personally, I feel that the best relationships are those that both know how to serve (give) and to be served (receive).
Do you know something with high Relator? Or do you have high Relator? What are your thoughts on this?
